I'm a superlight mixed girl with a bunch of emotional hang-ups about my hair. Most of the people I'm around are white, and vocally prefer my hair when it's relaxed and straightened. I, however, want to go natural like my mom. I have a LOT of hair--even relaxed, it's kinky, the base of my ponytail is as thick as my wrist, and it's BSL when straightened. I've got about four months (two inches) of new growth right now, and I'm trying to decide what to do. Should I Big Chop, or wait for it to grow out longer? What's the transition like, in terms of management changes? How do people respond? Will my face look different? Ahh, I have so many feelings and questions.
I'm no expert but I have crazy/curly "mixed hair", and it's been my experience that when I'm trying to transition (natural) braids work the best. If you need to maintain a more refined or professional look the thinner the better!!
i am transitioning right now. almost 6 months in and i cant take it no more! heading for a big chop right now! i think its because i am having to do my own hair now coming from going to the salon every other week. if i were still going to the salon every other week i may be persuaded to transition longer, but....im ready. dealing with both textures is annoying, im ready for wash and gos! i've been blogging about my transition so if you need different styles to try you can check my blog www.iriediva.com
Twist outs and braid out will help with transitioning if you're not ready to big chop. I never big chopped...just let my hair grow out for about 8 months then cut off the relaxed ends. By that time, my hair was just about to my ear when straight. I'd never had hair that short before, but I'm happy with the length now because I have more options for styles.
That's interesting that many of the white people around you prefer your hair straight. I grew up in a predominantly white community in Florida, attended a predominantly white university in the Midwest, and all of my white friends (and co-workers now) love the curls! Honestly, screw what other people think. It's your hair. Give it some time and let it grow out if you're apprehensive about the style. I can tell you this-- having shorter hair will highlight your facial features, which I love.